Hmm... Maybe the more self developed a woman becomes she's rewarded with more spots like Gspot and Cervical? A useless reward if a man doesn't think to look for them....?
Men who don't care about their partners pleasure basically do not have a partner, they have a living breathing body to masturbate on. An upgrade from the rubber girl ones with the shocked look on their face (maybe they expected better?) A smart women doesn't need to climb into bed with them to find this out for themselves, its very apparent way before it gets to the sex stage. A woman may also notice that a man over performs in bed for his own self image. That is marginally better than using your girlfriend as a sex toy but is still off putting. People who have something to prove should find some other way than sex to prove it because sex wasn't intended to validate one's libido or appeal. Its still all about them.
Ladies should be able to determine this when a man offers to help her into a coat. Does hand it to her and/or fling it carelessly over her shoulders, and walk away as she's struggling into it or does he help her into the coat and take that moment to pause and make sure he's not wrestled her head into am arm hole. Be leery of men who consistently drink beer out of a bottle and don't let wine breathe.
If a man speaks poorly of their ex describing how she spent most of their married life sitting on the washing machine waiting for the spin cycle, know there is more being revealed than what was spoken.
One may not have a satisfying physical experience but one can have a satisfying emotional experience if the relationship is more than just about sex and personal self gratification. That's what cervical spot is for. I'd hate to think its only a a biological imperative installed in woman forcing them to emotionally bond with men who are horrible in bed.
So its a good thing inept men can't find it.
Seriously sex purely on a physical level is not anymore difficult difficult than finger painting or riding a bike. For more depthful relations one might need to be a mindful, present, curious, observant, imaginative, creative and all that other stuff people have such a hard time with outside the bedroom where a sexual relationship actually starts. If anyone male or female has a hard time (no pun intended) grasping those concepts in any area of their life, their sexuality is going to very limited instead of progressive.